There Should Not Be Any Secrets In The Communities Of
The whole idea of knowing the self is to
reach a point where our three personalities (what we think we
are, what other people think we are, and what we really are)
become One (god).
Of course, the very reason that what we think
we are and what we really are is different is that we do not really
want to know ourselves. When we truly know ourselves, what we
think we are and what we really are become One.
The reason that what we are is different
than what other people think we are is that other people do not
know themselves either; therefore, they look at us through their
personality (not their essence) and so their perception is
colored with their personality (wrong understandings, cultures,
past experiences, etc.). Most probably, therefore, what
they see is different than what we really are.
In the case of how other people see us, we have
less control than in the case of how we see ourselves. We can
close the gap between who we are and what we think we are by knowing
the self. Then, of course, we can also clearly see who other
people truly are (the essence, god). The only way we can help
others to see themselves and others as they truly are is to Guide
them to Know themselves so they can also see us as we truly are.
Communities Of Light are a great help in
accelerating this process of knowing oneself. As it is clearly
proven, man does not want to know the self and does not want to face
who he really is. Others, however, can see another person
better than they can see themselves. As a person has to be
open to the self and there should not be any hidden secrets between
him and the self so that he can truly know himself, there should
also not be hidden secrets in a community. What we try to hide
from other people are things we are trying to hide from ourselves.
If we are not willing to face these hidden behaviors and if we are
also unwilling to let the community know them, then these behaviors
will be hidden from us forever and we will never truly know the Self
In fact, a great function in the COLs is
that everyone is an open book to everyone else. In this
process of knowing one another we can help each other to know
ourselves. Since others are much better at seeing us (or at
least identifying our faults) than we are at seeing ourselves,
others in the community can help us to know ourselves. Indeed
one of the functions of the Community Unity Meeting on Saturdays is
for others to point out where we can improve ourselves in the COL.
If we are not willing to see ourselves and do not let others
point us to where we can improve, we will never KNOW ourselves!
Besides the personal privacy, what we do in our
rooms and/or houses (which should not be immoral), whatever else
that affects the community should be an open book to everyone in the
Community Of Light. The community should help each
individual to progress to become a better and more productive member
in that community. If an individual in the community resists
this process, he or she is not community material. Either they
have to change this resistance or they will not last long in a COL!
Also there should not be any secrets in a
marriage. The rules above go beyond the COLs in this
case, as the wife and husband can further help one another to
progress and Be(Come) One since they are together even in their
In all cases, each individual should have the
best intentions to help the other individual or individuals.
They should also be open themselves to the input from other people
so they can also see their deeper motives. The whole process
should make everyone have deeper meditation on who they really are,
and so become their Essence. They should be open with no hidden
secrets and/or agenda (hidden agenda is a disease itself).
CHILDREN AND COMMUNITY
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