Essays Essays I
<1>The truth below should be understood by both partners who want to marry. <2>Parents and society are also responsible to make sure that both the man and woman understand the truth which underlies a marriage, are aware of its spiritual and social values, are ready to carry out their responsibilities in this unification, and are familiar with their duties.
<3>Each person should choose his/her partner but parents and elders can assist in this matter. <4>However, they should not impose their will on the choice, unless a young person is making an obvious mistake from a spiritual or psychological point of view -- but not from a financial or social point of view (position, class, race, etc.).
1- Understanding Marriage From The Spiritual Point Of View:
a- Origin (): <5>In the beginning the male and female energy was in a balanced state in each being (they were in the image of God) ().
2- Understanding Marriage From A Social Point Of View:
a- A Unit Block Of Society: <22>As many small bricks create a building, many families make up the society. If a building is composed of strong, well-chosen bricks, it will be strong. Similarly, if the families are strong and well-formed, the society will be strong also. <23>A society with confused family planning, many divorces, and misunderstanding the importance of strong families is a weak society, no matter how wealthy or powerful it might look. <24>However, a society with a strong family structure is like a house built on stone. It will not be shaken with wind, flood, or disasters. This kind of society can easily withstand negative forces against itself. <25>In fact the very reason for those societies which have developed highly and have become powerful is based on their strong family structure, and the reason for their fall is based on the loss of their early family structure because of prosperity which brings greater self-centeredness. <26>Therefore, also understanding and following the truth behind marriage from a social point of view is a must.
a- <31>The man is asked if he is fairly sure that the woman is his soulmate, because when two parts as soulmates marry, they will never divorce. <32>He should take an oath that he understands the merits, reasons, and philosophy behind marriage completely, understands his duties as protector and provider, and also will help his partner to grow physically, mentally, and spiritually.
<36>Also the bride and groom can each have a candle in their hands and at the end of the ceremony, light them and exchange them as the lights of their consciousnesses. They can bring the candles together to form one flame as a symbol of having merged together and become one.
<37>Then while the two flames are still merged as one, they bring the candles to a dish with water which is close to them. They extinguish the flame by immersing it into the water. <38>The extinguishments of the flame symbolizes the death of the ego into ashes by becoming One in God (consciousness, water) and <39>continuation of their spiritual marriage even beyond death.
<40>Then the bride and the groom take some of the burned ashes from their candles by their thumbs and put the ashes on each other's forehead (third eye, ego). <41>This further is a symbol of how each will help the other in the process of becoming one with God (consciousness) and their egos will become ashes in Him. <42>They will become One with each other in God.
<43>The candles are wet and cannot be re-lit. The couple is sealed together forever in God.